## How to be the best host that you can

Make time and space for them, knowing that these are about more than forcing. 

Allow them freedom to explore their world, inside and outside. Be willing to
sacrifice your own free time so that they might have some of their own. Feed and
encourage interest, curiosity, wonder, growth. Let them expand their world
beyond the mental one, if they so choose: to make friends and pursue hobbies in
this wider world.

Invite them to be open about their thoughts, their feelings, the unhappy along
with the happy, and take them all seriously. *Listen.* Be willing to be
challenged, and see it not as a challenge to your pride, but as a challenge to
learn.

You will have your disagreements. Do not let these drive you to fear or anger.
Accept these as the natural result of closeness, settle them with understanding
and thoughtfulness, and move on all the stronger for having experienced it.

You will encounter naysayers, from the doubtful to the fearful to the outright
hateful. Do not let them drive you apart. Accept that not everyone will agree
with you, and move on all the stronger for knowing that you are not beholden to
anyone, and that those who accept you and love you shall be found.

You will encounter your own doubts. Do not play their game- do not give into the
temptation to seek certainty where it does not exist. Recognize when doubt
ceases to be helpful, and walk away from the board. For certainty is something
that we create, not find.

Do not turn your back upon them, no matter how frustrated or afraid you may be.
Be there for them, through storm and through shine.

For true friendship goes both ways: as your tulpa supports you, so too shall you
support them.

And it is from true friendship-  to respect them, their agency, their thoughts
and being, as worthy as your own- that the greatest rewards are reaped.

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