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## How to be the best host that you can
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Make time and space for them, knowing that these are about more than forcing.
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Allow them freedom to explore their world, inside and outside. Be willing to
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sacrifice your own free time so that they might have some of their own. Feed and
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encourage interest, curiosity, wonder, growth. Let them expand their world
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beyond the mental one, if they so choose: to make friends and pursue hobbies in
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this wider world.
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Invite them to be open about their thoughts, their feelings, the unhappy along
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with the happy, and take them all seriously. *Listen.* Be willing to be
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challenged, and see it not as a challenge to your pride, but as a challenge to
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learn.
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You will have your disagreements. Do not let these drive you to fear or anger.
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Accept these as the natural result of closeness, settle them with understanding
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and thoughtfulness, and move on all the stronger for having experienced it.
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You will encounter naysayers, from the doubtful to the fearful to the outright
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hateful. Do not let them drive you apart. Accept that not everyone will agree
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with you, and move on all the stronger for knowing that you are not beholden to
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anyone, and that those who accept you and love you shall be found.
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You will encounter your own doubts. Do not play their game- do not give into the
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temptation to seek certainty where it does not exist. Recognize when doubt
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ceases to be helpful, and walk away from the board. For certainty is something
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that we create, not find.
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Do not turn your back upon them, no matter how frustrated or afraid you may be.
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Be there for them, through storm and through shine.
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For true friendship goes both ways: as your tulpa supports you, so too shall you
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support them.
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And it is from true friendship- to respect them, their agency, their thoughts
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and being, as worthy as your own- that the greatest rewards are reaped.
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[from here](https://write.as/3aomkryppwm9e1ke)
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